days, it is not unusual for many people to have difficulties starting
families of their own. Middle class women are often engaged with career
advancement when they are in their twenties and thirties. Marriages are
often beginning later than in previous generations, thus making the time
for giving birth to children more limited. When couples wait until their
late thirties to begin pregnancies, they are sometimes surprised to find
that they have medical problems in conceiving.
In addition to identifying and dealing with these powerful new feelings concerning identity, infertile couples often need help sorting through the myriad of mixed messages and information concerning any actions they might take.
Many couples have to face the challenges of daily self-administered injections and appointments for blood tests, in addition to the considerable financial strains of medical tests and invitro fertilizations.
Given the complexity of this problem, it is often wise for individuals or couples to seek a therapist's help during a period of infertility. Much can be done in the way of support, demystification, and provision of resources. I have had experience with both gay and straight couples confronting these issues.